We all thank you so much friends. David, indeed, is
missed. (Indeed is one of his favorite words) Thanks for
remembering him! We will forever!
I heard this song today and thought of you guys, I had
never thought of heaven as being just a breath away before
but David is only a breath away. That one last breath we
take is all that separates us from Heaven time with him.
This is a Josh Groban song, his voice is so soothing.
The song is called, To Where You Are.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tTdqdOC2DtI
Love,
“Come Away With Me”
Come away with me in the night
Come away with me
And I will write you a song
Come away with me on a bus
Come away where they can’t tempt us
With their lies
I want to walk with you
On a cloudy day
In fields where the yellow grass grows knee-high
So won’t you try to come
Come away with me and we’ll kiss
On a mountaintop
Come away with me
And I’ll never stop loving you
And I want to wake up with the rain
Falling on a tin roof
While I’m safe there in your arms
So all I ask is for you
To come away with me in the night
Come away with me
In high school, David’s locker was above mine for the
majority of our four years there. Technically, my last
name came before his–Rantala before Remick–so I should’ve
had the top locker. I have a sneaking suspicion he talked
to Mickey or someone else before each year started to
claim the top spot. Even if he had special requested a
top locker, that would’ve been fine with me had his locker
not looked that an atomic bomb causality. Quite honestly,
I’m scared to know what was actually IN that locker–books,
food, sweaty sports gear–it’s actually impressive he got
so much in there. Less impressive was when it all fell on
top of my head every time we were at our lockers together.
Getting hit in the head with those hardcover books was
becoming a daily occurrence…and it hurt. “DAVID! Can you
just clean your locker?” I asked. “I’m tired of being hit
in the head.” “Okay, okay, I’ll fix it. I promise,” he
said. “I’m sorry.” The next day, he raced over to his
locker, completely full of pride. “Cait, I have a
solution!” “Did you clean your locker?” He dug into
his bag and pulled out a red and white spray painted
football helmet. “Better. I made this for you,” he said
proudly, handing it to me. “What is it?” “It’s a
football helmet.” “But why are you giving it to me?”
“Now, when I open my locker, you can put the football
helmet on and if any books fall out, you’ll be fine. Your
head won’t get hurt because you’re wearing the helmet.”
“Please tell me you’re not serious.” “It’s genius,” he
said. “Here, let’s try it!” He put the helmet on my head
and I humored him while he opened his locker. Technically,
it did work–assuming I could get the helmet on fast
enough. “Rem, I don’t think this a good solution–hey,
where are you going? Don’t you walk away from me right
now! DAVID REMICK!” “Sorry, gotta go to class,” he
yelled from down the hall. “Oh, likely story. I bet you
didn’t even do your homework!” “No. I made you a
football helmet last night. Gotta have your priorities
straight, Cait!”
Notes in David’s High School Bible
-
Proverbs 22: 2-25. Just as hot and cold objects have
the potential to change each others temp, we are
influenced by our friends for good and bad – so
we must pick our friends wisely.
- Isaiah 45: 5-7. All energy comes from God.
I remember David especially for his Spiritual maturity.
I will never forget the words he prayed one evening in
one of our group meetings while on a mission trip to
Peru in 2006. He prayed that God would “bend our
will to Your will, Lord.” I had never heard that
before – the way David worded it just struck me
and caused me to think about it that meant. I
couldn’t believe it was coming from an 18 year old
either.
For My Nephew David!
David
He twas a lad
Sensitive and strong
Two families claimed him
To them he belonged
As a boy he had dreams
To a soldier be
Arranging little plastic men
Into companies
At four he was a cousin
At five, brother to Sam
At six he went to school
And learned to say “Yes Mam”
At nine came brother Thomas
And David controlled his gang
Leading cousins and brothers into fun escapades
And ending each gathering with a clang
Along the way his character
Developed, sharpened, grew
Into a man he was growing
Bold and brave and new
At twelve he began re-enacting
So devoted to his craft
His mom bought an outfit
And had him photographed
At sixteen he began football
Burly, strong, and lean
He tackled player after player
A new record for the team
As the days marched on one by one
Time to graduate came
To The Citadel David would go
After winning Stewards of the Game
First year in college
Was such a brutal thing
But David excelled
And became a Marine
Next to Naval Academy
David surely went
To be a plebe and wear dress whites
Learning what Sampa’s stories meant
Then came the time to leave childhood behind
David entered the Marines
He discovered Ashley through the Grace of God
And learned how to lead human beings
Into war and Afghanistan he went
Dragging soldiers to safety he did
An Honorable Citation issued in his name
Clearly no longer a kid
Now he is gone, to the Lord he returned
Taking with him all the things
He did and he learned
But in my memory
He will always have his place
And never in time
Will I forget his face
He is and has always been
One of the loves of my life
And losing him has cut my heart like a knife
Aunt Nancy
I was unable to personally come and pay my respects
to David. But everyone that had the opportunity to
meet and spent time with him, knew that he was special
individual. Natural, selfless, sacrificial leader;
man of amazing character; inspirational; physically
strong; intelligent beyond his years; and he never
meet a person whom he couldn’t make his friend. Such
a caring heart, although I was 10 years his senior,
being around him, I felt like his little brother.
David is truely missed and continues to live on in the
hearts of those who knew him.
Good Thursday Morning! Thought I’d share.
1. Question – Do you see God at work in flowers?
2. Thought – Here’s the scoop on the planter.
Historically, flowers were used to send secret messages,
so let me break the code on the ones in your planter.
Lavender is symbolic of protection and
healing…something we have not stopped praying for
you guys. The Lord is your refuge, your protection and the
only source of healing that mends a broken heart.
Rosemary is symbolic of remembrance. We will never forget
David Remick; his servant-hood, his goofiness, his way of
making everyone feel important.
Philippians 1:3 says, “I thank my God every time I
remember you.” We will forever thank God for the
privilege and now remembering your son, your brother and
our “other” son.
African Margarita Daisy: Daisies symbolize inner strength.
A daisy has many petals, one petal does not stand alone
and neither do you. May you learn to lean on others’
inner strength when yours isn’t sufficient for the
day. And of course the Margarita represents the
happy-go-lucky, playful attitude of David…the fact
that it originates in Africa symbolizes the far reaching
impact David had on so many lives, both far and near.
Peace lily: Lilies stand for a Godly mind and humility.
This plant alone could symbolize David…a Godly mind
and humble heart. And we know he rests in Peace with the
God that created a peace that passeth all understanding.
3. Comment – When we received this planter in
Arlington I cried. Now, I still cry, but comprehend
better, and when I re-read the many, many notes, letters,
and so much more I am so thankful for Philippians 1:3. And
when I look at all the many books I’ve read and
studied, I realize I only needed to read and know One.
Please read & study ‘Basic Instructions Before
Leaving Earth.’ Do you see God at work in flowers?
Thanks Bible Study Teacher!
All our boys are gifts to father and I miss David so much.
I love them all forever!!!
I think of David often with such fond memories. It’s
the small things he did for me that touched my heart. He
made me feel special, but I have since learned that he
made everyone feel that way! I always knew he was special,
from the first day I met him at the age of 3. There we so
many times I was lucky to share 1:1 conversations with
David throughout the years, and was so charmed by his
charisma. I was so proud of the man he had become, yet
always saw a part of him as that little boy with the silly
attitude and great laugh. Chip, Stephen & I talk about
David all the time, and are grieving along with everyone
else who had the privilege of knowing him. We are going
through pictures to share with you and Kathy. So many fun
times together….that make us smile. I know it has to
be so hard, but think of those great Wynfield days
together and smile up at David. I do! Lots of love, Lisa

I thought about your David, I remember a very young
David, lanky, young, wonderful manners, and sweet smile,
just an all-around wonderful, polite young boy.
You and Kathy have entered a world that most shudder to
think about – I’ve been here for almost 11
years as of May 23th this year.
He was a good friend to all and I was always glad he was a
friend to my Anna. I remember one night she wanted to be
out later than I thought proper. I asked her who was going
and she listed David as one of the people who would be
wherever it was they were going. I immediately agreed to
let her go and told my wife. “It’s OK. David
will be there. And nothing will hurt Anna as long as David
is around.”I don’t know how many High School
boys that could be said of. But I was absolutely sure that
David would have died trying to protect any of the girls
in that group if it had proven necessary.
…Mark… I heard about David’s passing to
the Kingdom… Yes, we are indeed stunned by the
news… Words elude me at this sorrowful time… I
can only offer this thought… Celebrate David’s
life in which he accomplished more in his years then many
of us accomplish in a lifetime…



I remember him as a fiery Southlake linebacker bringing
success to the football program…
Yet, I recall his energy, his personality, his love of
family and caring for his younger brothers… In fact,
right here, in my library/study sitting on a shelf is tha
picture I received of David in a white T-shirt with that
motto printed on the back of it, that crazy motto, the one
a buddy of mine in our early years of TV gave to
me…
And, today, as I sit here tapping out these words to you,
sits that photo of David in that motto T-shirt on the
shelf… That photo will remain on that shelf as long
as I’m alive…Celebrate David’s
life!… Remember that he gave us more than any of us
could hope to receive from our lives… God moves in
mysterious ways always using life’s struggles &
sorrows to lead us to our appointed duties… God
Bless you & Kathy, Sam, & Thomas… Tell them
to be strong and to remember the sacrifice their brother
gave to his beloved country!… Pops

David always wanted to take care of other people. On our
senior trip to Peru we got stuck in traffic or something
happened with the bus and we were on the bus for over 10
hours. I think everyone was at their wits end by that
point in time. I remember David walked up the isle of the
bus making sure everyone was ok. He came over to my seat
just to check on me and make sure I didn’t need something.
He was always thinking of others and was also ready to
lift a helping hand.
A few days after his memorial, I decided to go for a run.
It was more for David than for me; I thought maybe it
would make me feel close to him since it was our thing
– and it did. It was the worst run ever. It was a
cold, gray day just after the snow had stopped falling. I
don’t know why I picked this day, but once I got
the idea in my head, i just HAD to do it. After just a
few minutes, my shoes were soaked and my feet were
freezing. I was running in 8 inches of snow on a soccer
field track. I kept slipping on the ice and the whole
thing began to feel ridiculous. But just when I had all
but convinced myself to stop, I remembered why I was
doing it. I remembered all the times I had seen David
persevere over the years, from the 110% effort he put
forth in high school in football and wrestling, to
Recognition Day at The Citadel and the Herndon Climb
plebe year at USNA. I remembered rugby and countless field
training exercises. I remembered his accomplishments at
Leatherneck and TBS and how he ran the Marine Corps
Marathon 10k in 2011. There are so many other examples,
and so many people who observed them, but anyone would
agree that David handled each of them with unwavering
determination, strength and without complaint. So if he
could do all that, I could surely do this little thing
for him.

So I kept going, and just as I made up my mind that I
wouldn’t give up, the sun burst through the clouds
for the first time in days. Maybe it was chance, but I
choose to believe it was David rewarding me for not
quitting, telling me I’d won the challenge, and
continuing to motivate me just like he always has.
Soon the ice started to melt and I was able to keep
going without falling. I ran longer in those conditions
than I ever had in my life.
I have never been a good runner, usually I run 2
miles, tops. But on that day, I ran 7 miles without
so much as slowing down, and it was all because David
was pushing me forward. He is still challenging me,
even from Heaven. I have kept running almost every
day since, and every time I experience the same sense
of surreal motivation, as though he were running
beside me, cheering me on. I am more grateful for the
workouts now than ever before because I feel like it
is our time together.
This is a small example, but from day-to-day victories
to lifetime achievements, I think it is just one of the
many ways David will continue to inspire the lives of
those who loved him.
On April 12, 2001, Andy pulled up into the driveway of the
little office I had in Lincolnton. I wondered what on
earth he’d be doing there in the middle of the
morning. For cryin out loud, I had appointments that day.
What happened next, is why I’m writing to you. As
I met him in the parking lot, he grabbed me by the
shoulders and said, ” Rebekah. Tripp died this
morning.” Tripp Pittman was my brother. He was 40
and left behind a 2 year old and 5 month old and his wife.
He had just returned from Guatemala after completing the
adoption of the 5 month old. When Andy said those words,
it was literally like the air was sucked completely out of
my lungs and I collapsed in shock. (I would later learn
that Tripp had contracted a pneumococcal virus that killed
him within 12 hours. He didn’t have a spleen due to
a blood disease from 20 years prior.)David’s death
has reminded me so much of Tripp’s passing. Tripp
was loved by all who met him. He was a Princeton-educated
pastor who decided to devote his life to working with the
poor in this country. He spent several years out of
Princeton working in the backwoods (Hatfield and McCoy
country) of West Virginia. After he died, my parents got
letter after letter from people he knew, just like you and
Kathy are getting about David, detailing what my brother
had meant to them. My parents cherished those letters.
They read them over and over. For many, many weeks after
he died, I had dreams about him. In every single dream, I
saw Tripp as he used to look when he was 18. Blond hair,
blue-eyed, with a grin on his face. And here’s the
deal: I’ll bet you $50 bucks that’s what he
looks like in heaven.For months after he died, I was
really mad. I couldn’t resolve why in the world God
would take a person like my brother who had made it his
life’s work to preach the Gospel and help others,
especially after he had just adopted a baby. Slowly, I
settled on a few things: 1. God is Sovereign. Bottom
line. 2. His ways really aren’t our ways. 3. This
wasn’t a surprise to God.
I am praying for you and Kathy and Sam and Thomas
everyday. I am praying that the Sovereign God of the
Universe will hold you tightly in the palm of His hand and
that he will comfort you all in a way that is obviously
supernatural.
David and I used to always have these crazy exercise
challenges going on. We would set a time frame and see who
could get in the best shape before the deadline, and
whoever lost would have to buy dinner for the winner or
do some sort of dare. By the end of the contest, we had
always trash-talked our way into a complex set of rules
and regulations. In any case, David was the only person
who could ever motivate me to go to the gym.
Good afternoon,
I’m David Zartman, and Tacy, my wife, and my 3 girls
have been friends with the Remick’s for a very long
time!Ever since David was a little boy he has always been
a very caring and loving person. Most boy’s when
they are young think of Girls as Goosh having
“Coodies” and don’t want to be near them
or play with them! But, from the start of our girls
meeting David, he was kind and friendly. He being the
oldest ,since Scott was already out of the house,
naturally set the tone from the beginning and was a true
leader making sure all of my girls, Jill, Tara, and Paige
were included in all of the fun! You could see his
kindness each time we would come over to the
Remick’s for a fun night of barbecue and play time.
Off went all the Remick boys and Zartman girls to play
games and enjoy each other! Many times Kathy or Tacy would
have to go upstairs to round them up to get them to come
down for the amazing BBQ that Mark and Kathy would cook up
with all the fixin’s! Boy can the Remick’s put
out a phenomenal BBQ meal! But the kids were all enjoying
each other so much thanks to David’s lead that they
could care less about food when they were together.
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As the years went by, we saw less of the Remick boys
because they were involved in different schools and
different sports then my three girls. But David’s
concern and care for my girls never left! He came out to
the NC Air National Guard a lot because he loved to play
with the equipment and gear out there and he just loved
the military from a very young age. When he would come
out, he always found a good quite time to grab me and
always ask about my girls. And it wasn’t just a
casual “How are Jill, Tara, and Paige?” It was
a full court press on wanting to know all they’re
activities and what they each were doing with sports and
boy friends! See David truly cared and really wanted to
know how each of them was doing.In his junior high school
days, David got sick and we were all very worried about
him. Mark and Kathy had been to numerous doctors and they
couldn’t seem to find a cure! My wife told me to get
my butt over to the Remick’s , so I finally decided
thanks to her ,to go over to the Remick’s house and
let David know how much we were praying for him and hoping
he would get better very soon. But before I could get any
of my motivational words out of my mouth, David began to
ask me how my Girls were doing! David’s such
kindhearted nature again burn brighter than ever even as
he lay in his bed sick! Thanks to the many prayers of so
many, David got better and went on with his amazingly
successful life.But even through out his success, David
never stopped caring for others! He had heard from his dad
that my daughter, Tara, had been accepted to the Air Force
Academy and he at the time was a senior at the U S Naval
Academy. He was “somebody” , a
“Bigdog”, and why would he waste his time with
a rising “smack” at his rival school? Most
boys in his shoes would not! But David was different.
David went out of his way to check on Tara through
numerous communication channels as she went through the
most rigorous challenges of her life! And even took a
complete afternoon of his limited Christmas break to take
Tara to lunch and help her learn to cope with the stresses
of the Academy. He motivated her so much that she was
noticeably more positive through out the remainder of her
freshman year. Simply Amazing is all we can say.Just the
other day, my daughter, Tara, told me that David was a big
motivator to her life. He helped her get through the
toughest challenges that she had ever confronted. He had
helped her and encouraged her to finish the Air Force
Academy! How many people can make such an amazing impact
on a persons life?
This is what my Family knows about David Remick! He was a
Loving, Selfless, Caring, And absolute wonderful young
man. We will miss him so much! But we are sure he is Safe
with The Lord now!
We love you Remick Family!!!!!
Sincerely, Dave, Tacy, Jill, Tara, and Paige Zartman
I will always credit David with teaching me patience as I
would wait to pick him up every morning for school. On the
way to school we could never agree on what music to listen
to. I listened to country and he hated country at the
time. He listened to this loud boy music like ACDC and
something that just sounded like a lot of screaming. After
listening to one of my country CD’s we finally found a
song he liked, Save a Horse Ride a Cowboy. Since it
was the first song we both agreed to, we listened to it
every single day on the way to school. I think I heard
that song a 100 times.
I wanted to tell you how blessed I was by David’s
service. God orchestrated a wonderful group of
encouraging speakers. Mitch’s comments on how to
grieve unashamedly without guilt coupled with what was
“normal” to feel was so helpful. The reminder
to focus on what we know and not what we don’t know
helped me think differently about the recent deaths of
several close family members. David’s roommate in
the military reminded me of David – handsome,
humble, selfless and filled with integrity.
Thomas’s words were so honoring of David. How his
brothers loved and respected him! Your friend from the
National Guard captured David’s ability to encourage
others regularly. Mike brought back memories of
David’s fun spirit and his steady leadership of
young men. I loved how you honored Kathy and how you
communicated David’s character and commitment to
God. And God added the faulty music stand to give us
laughter when we needed it!
What I Remember About
David 19
Feb 14 David Remick. What an absolutely wonderful young
man. I don’t remember the first time I met David, as the
son of my friend Mark Remick it may have been at a
squadron function or when Kathy drove out to the base.
What I do remember is how polite he was, too polite. When
I spoke to him it was always “yes sir, no sir”. I still
have trouble at times with that since I don’t consider
myself that old, but calling me “Mr. Perryman”, wel l that
was the limit for me. I kept telling David that my
father was “Mr. Perryman” and he could call me “Jeff”,
but you know what, it never took. The last time I spoke
to him on the phone when he was home on a visit, he still
said, “thank you Mr. Perryman”. I guess what I had in
common with David most was the subject of Civil War
reenacting. For a time, I was a participating member of
the 21st North Carolina. A reenacting group
representing the historical 21st NC (which my
great-great grandfather served with, but that’s another
story). Mark told me that David was interested in the
subject, so I brought some of my gear for him to look at,
musket, haversack, clothes, canteen, etc. and he took to
it right away. Always asking questions on authenticity
and what something was used for or how it was used. He
and Mark and Kathy even made it up to my Dad’s old
homeplace in Forsyth County and I helped David fire my
musket. Burning that black powder seemed to really make
him happy. The next thing you know I had talked Mark into
bringing David up to Ararat, Virginia for our fall
encampment at the J.E.B. Stuart birthplace. Mark and David
arrived and set up their tent, David already had some
gear, but with the sutlers (think stores that sell
uniforms, canteens, etc.) available he was looking the
part in no time. I introduced him to our group and our
commander, Captain Rahlo Leonard. David really wanted to
be able to fall in with us and participate in the
“battles” that would be happening over the weekend. There
was only one small problem. The rules say you have to be
14 to “fall in ranks” and carry a weapon. Well, David was
a little past 12 years old. That was a problem. He was
so excited about being there and wanted so badly to be
part of the formation. Finally, Captain Leonard called
him over and said, “David, take off one of your shoes”,
which David did. The next thing I know, Captain Leonard
takes out a piece of paper that has “14” written on it in
big numbers. “David, put this in your shoe and then put
it back on”, the Captain instructed. David did as he was
directed, and then Captain Leonard handed him a musket and
cartridge belt and told him to fall in. As David stood in
our Grey Line, Captain Leonard said, “David, if any of the
battalion officers come up and ask you how old you are,
you tell them ‘I’m standing on 14’, and that will be the
truth”. I have never seen a bigger smile on a kid’s
face. You’d have thought that Christmas came early and
school had been cancelled for a week. The 21st
had a new recruit for the weekend and none more excited to
be there and part of the action. I will always remember
David as that polite, thoughtful, and respectful young
man. He has left us much too soon, and his absence will
be missed by so many, who I think like me, will forever
miss his presence and potential. I still wish he would
have called me “Jeff” and not “Mr. Perryman”. Jeff David
Perryman
I read Mike Dobrinen’s story and saw fire man John.
Jonathan does not write so I will just tell you this- When
they were at the service Jonathan and Gregory were
introducing themselves to the Marines. Remember both of
them had on uniforms- j his guard and G his fireman dress.
J said they all shook hands and talked a little.
Didn’t recognize Jonathan’s name. The Marines
commented about the fire truck and the flag. J and G said
they did it. I forgot how it happened but all of a sudden
one of the Marines said are you fire man John? They all
started talking about the stories they heard from David
about j and g. It made the boys feel special that David
would share their stories with the guys at the academy and
in the Marines. I will encourage j or g to write the story
since they know the details.
Mr. Remick, My name is Brandon Penner and I had the
distinct pleasure in serving with your son, David, while
we were students at TBS. I cannot express how saddened I
was to hear of his passing. David was more than just a
friend to me, he was an inspiration and someone that I was
able to learn from. I was known as the “old
man” of the platoon because I was prior enlisted
infantry prior to becoming an officer. So, naturally the
platoon members looked to me for advise and first-hand
knowledge of how exactly the Marine Corps really worked
(sometimes the schoolhouse environment does not
communicate this very well).
Early on, I noticed that David was a natural leader. Based
on my experience in the Marine Corps, both as a
junior/senior enlisted Marine and as an officer, I can
honestly say that David was one of the best Marines I have
ever served with. I distinctly remember him placing the
needs of others ahead of himself. David was always the guy
that would stay up all night during field exercises to
ensure that everyone else could sleep (including myself,
believe me I really appreciated it). What distinguished
David during these times was that he acted in this
unselfish manner naturally, it was just the person he was.
David never expected acclaim or quid pro quo, he simply
wanted to help out to the best of his ability for the
better well-being of our platoon. As a person, David was
so much fun to be around. If he wasn’t making me
laugh, I was asking him historical or political questions;
he was so smart. I always wanted to be around him during
our field training because he was expert at making
boring/miserable situations enjoyable. I am truly going to
miss David, he was a friend and someone I learned a lot
from. I hope this letter helps sooth some of your
pain. You raised a great son who left an impression on
everyone he met. Attached is a picture taken during our
TBS graduation. I couldn’t leave TBS without a
picture with David. My son, Daniel, is between the two of
us. If you have an questions or would like to talk, please
feel free to e-mail, write a letter, or call anytime.
Leadership
At the mere mention of David Remick’s name, the first
thing that usually pops in your head is Leadership.
Psalm 78:72 “And David shepherded them with
integrity of heart; with skillful hands he led
them.”
That’s how David Remick led…with integrity. And his
integrity was a direct reflection of his faith.
His leadership went way beyond the physical. He led
with his heart. He led with his mind. He was a THOUGHT
leader. He read, he thought, he questioned…and then he
inspired those around him to think as well.
But you can’t talk about David Remick without talking
about his leadership on the football field. Yes, he was
an absolute beast on the football field. But frankly, I
admired him even more as I watched him carry-out his
role as Team Captain. His main objective was
always…always
lifting other players up. When he wasn’t on the field,
which wasn’t very often, he
roamed
the sideline looking for teammates to encourage. He led
by example. He led from the front. Something that I’m
sure his fellow Marines will testify that translated
from the football field to the battlefield.
My family and I got a front row seat to many leadership
lessons taught by David Remick during his senior year of
high school. I’d like to tell you about one that really
stood out. My son David, who was a year behind Remick
at Southlake Christian Academy, was a little behind in
his homework. No, actually, he was
WAY
behind in his homework….and we got wind of it. And
being the mean old parents that we are, we told him he
wasn’t going to play in the game Friday night unless he
had it all caught up. And the chances of that happening
were slim to none.
Well, that Tuesday night we heard a knock at the door.
It was David Remick. That should have been my first
clue that something was up. David Remick never knocked
on our door…he just came right in. And he usually went
straight to the refrigerator. Actually, I take that
back, he would give you a big, monster Remick hug… and
THEN he would go to the refrigerator. I asked David to
come in and he said “No sir, I’d like to speak to your
son out here on the porch.” Right then, I could tell
there was something different about this visit. You
see, this wasn’t a visit from David Remick “the
friend”. This was an official visit from David Remick
the “Team Captain.”
So, I went and found my David and told him he had a
visitor. I closed the door behind him as he went out on
the porch to talk to Remick. We knew they would want
some privacy. But then, Teresa and I snuck around to
an open window on the porch… because we wanted to hear
every word of this. I mean this was David Remick!!!!
So you
knew
this was going to be good. It was a pretty short
conversation. It went something like this. “Hey Sharp,
our team needs you Friday night. I need you Friday
night. I’m not sure we can win this game without you.
So you need to get your butt back up to your room and
get your homework done…so you can help your team Friday
night. He paused….and then he said “You got that?”.
“Yeah, I got it” was the response. And then David
Remick turned around and walked away. My son came back
in and went up to his room. I think he did more
homework those next three days than he’d done the past 3
years.
Well, let’s fast forward to the end of the story. That
Friday night’s game was against First Assembly….a big
rivalry. There was about 10 seconds left on the clock
and Southlake was up 10-9. First Assembly had made
their way down to the 5 yard line. Everybody on the
Southlake side of the field was pretty distraught as
First Assembly lined-up for an easy field goal to seal
the win. Well, the kick gets blocked and all the
Southlake players and fans start jumping up and down in
excitement…game over…right? Wrong. There’s
still a live ball on the field. A First Assembly
player picks up the ball and is headed for the end
zone. But he got tackled on the 1 yard line. He got
tackled by the player that David Remick had led and
inspired to be on the field that night.
That tackle went down on the stat sheet as a solo tackle
for #47. But those of us who knew the whole story knew
that was no solo tackle. #51, David Remick, was in on
that last tackle that night…just like he was in on most
tackles every game. David Remick’s leadership and his
friendship changed the outcome of that game. Just like
his leadership and friendship has changed the outcome of
many of our lives here today. But, does it really
matter…almost 10 years later who won that game that
night? No, of course not. But the lesson that David
Remick taught a number of us that day does matter. He
taught us that true leadership, and true friendship, is
first and foremost about showing-up. And when you show
up as a leader, you better be ready to tell people what
they need to hear…which is not always what they want to
hear. That lesson mattered then. And it still matters
to us today.
Hey Mark, loving the David stories. The one from
Mr. Nerness and Annie’s mom were
precious.
Here’s the YouTube link to the video tribute of
David that David Sharp put together. Feel free to this
link out there on your David Remick website page for all
the enjoy.
Good Evening Mr and Mrs Remick.
My name is Mike Dobrinen and I had the absolute pleasure
to have been friends with your son. It is a rare
occurrence for a man of his caliber to grace this earth
and I thank God, his family and the naval academy for
giving me the opportunity to grow up with him. It is my
opinion that much of who we become as adults is guided by
our families and our faith. I firmly believe that I would
not be the man I am without the influence of your son.
Dave and I met plebe year through the rugby team and
became fast friends through the sharing stories of the
“old corps” at the Citadel and my alma mater the New
Mexico Military Institute. Both institutions shared a
similar penchant for punishment and we often shared
stories about how much harder things used to be (or so we
thought). I would always wonder who this guy was that
would want to complete his plebe year and then just go
back for another one. Then again, I think we hit it off
because I was foolish enough to do the same.
Each Monday you knew who the rugby players were because
they would leave their sixth period classes with their gym
bags and black eyes, beginning the long often foreboding
walk to the rugby shed on hospital point. I remember
thinking Dave was a crazy man because as many of us walked
over the bridge to the pitch, it would be a common
occurrence to see Dave jogging by us, in working uniform,
yelling that he would rather get the punishment started
than take his time worrying about it. I didn’t realize it
then but the hard working, jovial in the face of pain
attitude that I saw on days like that really characterize
what Remick would eventually epitomize as an officer and
Marine. Through some hard won victories on the rugby
field, and some near disasters in chemistry class, we were
able to make it by our plebe year and choose History as a
common major. I believe that I learned more about him as
an intellectual through our arguments on the way back from
class than I ever could in any other context. We took a
few civil war classes together and when I thought it was a
good idea to pick a fight Dave made sure I knew what I was
in for. Dave fervently loves the south. I am from the
north. If you ever wanted to rile him up, I know the
topic. He is the only one that I have ever gotten into a
wrestling match with over an intellectual subject. I will
always remember the way that his eyes would light up when
he thinks he has you cornered in an argument.
We took physics together, sat in the back and probably
only passed because we lifted weights with the teacher (an
avid power lifter) after school. Dave used to work so
hard that the blood vessles in his eyes would pop and he
would walk back to Bancroft looking like some sort of
zombie. Dave and I were able to take the history of modern
counterinsurgency together, in which we were borderline
kicked out of class on numerous occasions for arguing well
beyond the scope of our class’ conversation. Needless to
say they sponsored our independent study senior year, “The
History of American Counterinsurgency”. Almost every
night senior year Rem, Jess Maxwell and I would sit in
front of a computer for some length of time arguing
whether or not the concept even existed. I don’t know
where he got it from but Dave had an amazing ability to
think big picture. At tbs I remember the day that he
selected the infantry MOS. I didn’t hear from Dave that
he had achieved his long sought out goal. I heard from
the large amount of people who came up to me saying, “Hey!
Did you hear Remick got infantry!” Every one knew that he
was made for the job and my heart broke when he told me
that he hurt his knee in IOC. We talked often while he was
on deployment and of course he made it seem like there was
nothing going on. He talked more about his brothers and
“fire man john” than anything else. We talked about Pat.
We made some plans to go duck hunting and talked about
what trucks to buy. I had no idea that he had been in
constant contact with the enemy just barely that he was
even going on patrols. That’s who Dave is to me. He was
the guy who would pick up the heaviest stuff, walk the
furthest, not say a word but have a smile on his face and
make you want to do the same. I believe that the truest
form of friendship exists between those who have a sense
for the finite nature of life.
In remembrance and in honor of David Remick by coach
Nerness
As a teacher and coach, over the years, it has
been my privilege and honor to have been able to teach
and coach some remarkable people. David Remick ranks
amongst the highest of those, he left an indelible
impression upon me in the category of being
remarkable. I thank the Lord for my time with David
and I know it made me a better man having coached and
taught him.
David was a very inquisitive student and always
wanted to learn. He was one of the few students that
would buy the books I presented in class and actually
read them. He never let his education get in the way
of being educated. This approach stayed with David
after he graduated from SouthLake. I remember talking
to him after he had left SouthLake; most of the time
they were rushed conversations, because of our
schedules, about politics, religion, and military
strategy. Every time we carried on a conversation they
were interesting and delightful and was impressed with
how well David reflected on these subjects and how
much I would learn from him. I have had a number of
students leave SouthLake that became my teacher and
David was one of them.
David was the kind of kid any coach would want
to have as an athlete. I coached David in the sport of
wrestling, which I believe to be one of the toughest
sports out there. This sport suited David well because
the nature of the sport; little glory and demands a
lot of guts and heart; wrestling is a cruel mistress
and the first time David met her, he would not leave
her while he was in high school.
David had as much heart as any wrestler I
have ever coached and would do anything you asked him
without grumbling or complaining and faithfully
expressed our goal of having an attitude of gratitude.
I once watched David participate in a tournament with
a haircut given to him by a few of his fellow
wrestlers (Stevermer & Stone, I believe), that
made him look like Lloyd Christmas from Dumb and
Dumber, but this did not affect his heart and desire
to win; even if he lost because he defaulted out by
means of too many illegal moves even after having a
lead of 13-5. I remember David at the Granby school of
wrestling (referred to by the wrestlers by the German
word “holle”, it was composed of 6-8 hours of training
a day with no air conditioning in the middle of the
summer ) reacting to my proposal that we fit another
training session in before the night session. I
explained that this had been arranged by me with the
camp director (former University of Iowa wrestler,
Steve Martin, not the comedian, in fact quite the
opposite) for purpose of training SouthLake wrestlers
alone. This was all fabricated by me in order to see
how the wrestlers would react to this rather
unpleasant proposal. I received some dumbfounded looks
and a few moans of disapproval from some of the
wrestlers but not from David. He rose to the occasion,
and uttered “I have one pair of clean underwear left,
let’s do this” and then he turned around to change his
clothes for the session. I suspect this utterance
came from a mixture of fortitude, courage, obedience,
and delirium derived from the smell of his room which
was accompanied by Seth Stone and Justin Stevermer.
He passed the test with flying colors.
Humility, fortitude, gratitude and service
expressed David’s character. He knew how to handle
losing (get back up and try again without complaining)
and how to handle winning (no pride or arrogance just
gratitude) he knew how to encourage others (like his
phone call, to the little leprechaun, Chris Kilgannon,
to encourage him, before his state tournament match). These are
the things I try to teach the kids in this sport and
in the case of David, he already had these
characteristics before he started wrestling and no
doubt this was a result of his home life and
ultimately the grace of God working in his life.
When David graduated, I told him I would follow
him if he were my leader and I have never changed my
mind about this resolution and because David has gone
before me; I shall follow him to the greatest victory
with the same assurance he had, “Death is swallowed up
in victory” because the Lord of glory has put death to
death. Thank you, Lord Jesus.
“ A WALK IN THE PARK “
This story took place when Annie was 16 and David was 17.
They had recently started dating and I wanted to get to
know David and know how he could assure me that their
relationship would be as strong a Christian bond as God
intended. I don’t remember what the situation was but I
remember that my first impression was that David had
Annie’s back. So I arranged for David to meet with me
after school one day. I wanted to put him at ease, so I
asked Annie what I could bring to him that he would like.
She told me to bring him a vanilla ice cream cone…and
that’s what I did. He ate the ice cream while we drove
to Jetton Park and made polite conversation.
When we got to the park I told him that I had already
talked to Annie about how she was going to proceed with
their relationship but I wanted to know what he had been
doing to determine how he would move forward with her. He
told me that when he was young, he always got on his knees
to pray and said that he had returned to that practice
during the past months. He continued to tell me how he
felt about Annie and that although he wasn’t perfect, he
very much wanted to make their relationship one that we
all would be proud of. And, true to form, he continued to
talk, explain himself and ask me questions
for 4 laps around the park path, which equated to 6
miles! I had never done that many laps there before. I got to
know David’s exceptional character that day, and I was
happy my daughter had chosen such a caring and Godly young
man. When I finally said that I could not walk any longer,
I drove him home. Kathy was in the driveway when we got
there…and I am sure that she wondered why Annie’s Mom was
bringing David home! David gave me a big hug and got out
of the car. To this day I remember our conversation when I
think of him and I am very thankful for the influence he
had in Annie’s life.
Good Evening Sir,
My name is Cpl. Justin Blosser. I attended the
funeral services for your son on this past weekend. I was
one of the senior police advisors for ANCOP KDK1. I worked
close with your son and have a few stories that would put
a smile on your face during these time. Your son was a
great man. He would always just burst in to our tent and
random times of the the night with this big smile on his
face. “Evening gents, Ya’ll know whats going
on in Syria?”. Those were the first words out of his
mouth before we would go in to a big history lesson that
would cover hundreds of years before we even got to the
recent events. He would always give a prize to the marine
that knew the most about History. I sat next to him every
day as we trained the less experienced marines how to give
periods of instructions, so that when we tought the
Afghans, the marines would perform flawless. Your son and
I sat through those classes so much that we could give a
class in our sleep. He wanted these classes to be perfect.
He was always the first officer down on the trucks with us
helping to prepare for missions, and the last one to leave
making sure all the rest of the guys were good. He always
went out of his way to come check on the troop welfare.
You could tell his walk from a mile away the way he would
swing his arms, the marines always got a kick out of that.
I was the gunner of the vic that was struck by the suicide
bomber. I was medevaced from the scene. Your son and the
others showed later that night to be checked out after all
was done. I remember, barley able to hear, (I had a
concussion and two blown ear drums) him asking me how i
was, looking at me, watching my every move to make sure i
was ok. We had long conversations about how i needed to
take it easy with my head injuries. He never let me out of
his sight. Your son was an outstanding person and I looked
up to him. I know i speak for the rest of the marines that
served by his side that he will be deeply missed. Feel
free to email me here or mail to my home address listed
below.
Mr. Remick,
My name is Dan Abney, and I was friends with your son Dave
both at the Naval Academy and after graduation. I’m
currently a Marine in flight training stationed at Corpus
Christi, TX and was unable to come up for Dave’s
memorial service. However, friends of mine that were there
gave me your e-mail address and said your family is
interested in compiling stories about your son. That is
the purpose of this message.
I met Dave during Youngster Navigation class. We
discovered in class one day that we each had gone to
college elsewhere prior to getting accepted to the Naval
Academy. I had done a two year stint at the University of
Central Florida where I had been in Army ROTC, so Dave and
I became fast friends as we swapped stories about our
brief times with the Army. We became much closer during
the summer before 1/C year where we were in the same
platoon and squad over Leatherneck. Dave and I were two of
the only guys who had any experience with land navigation
and squad tactics, having learned them at our previous
colleges before coming to Navy, and we worked together to
get our squad squared away and prepared for Leatherneck.
Dave was what I always referred to as “stupid
smart”. I had known from conversations with him in
Navigation class that he was an incredibly bright young
man. However, at Leatherneck, his boyish, happy-go-lucky
attitude made others think that he was less than capable.
Boy did he prove them wrong. Dave did an awesome job at
Leatherneck. So awesome that he got ranked 1st out of our
whole platoon, both by our instructor and all of our
peers, something that I was not surprised at in the least.
Sure, he was great at all the individually graded events.
But what really won the platoon over was how he lead so
sacrificially. He was always looking for a way to help
others. He would never get angry, frustrated, or bummed
out when we were getting rained on in the middle of the
woods in Quantico. He would always know exactly what to
say to cheer everyone up, and I loved him dearly for that.
One story during our time in Leatherneck that is most
memorable is when we had to lead a squad-sized attack
against an enemy force. It was the culminating event at
Leatherneck, and it had the biggest effect on our final
grade; the grade that eventually determined whether or not
you were going to be selected for the Marine Corps. Well,
because of the experience Dave and I brought to the table,
Dave was selected to be the first to go, and I was
selected to go last. Our instructor’s idea was that
the squad would get to watch a good attack at the
beginning, and then get to watch another good one at the
end as a recap. Dave and I didn’t know this though
until the morning we went into the field. Dave had
accidentally left his 5 paragraph order (that we had been
given almost a week to perfect) in his room, and there
wasn’t time to retrieve it. There was no way for him
to switch out of going first, so he was stuck. But,
instead of getting angry or upset, Dave, with a huge grin
on his face, said “Well I guess this will be
fun!” There were some problems with his attack, as
could be expected. But man did he do a great job. In fact,
he did a better job than almost anyone else did that day,
and they had the benefit of having their order written out
in front of them! Boy oh boy could Dave lead. I really
looked up to him for that, and he made me want to be a
better leader.
I had a class with Dave 1/C year as well, and I was super
excited when we both got selected for the Marine Corps. I
knew Dave wanted to be an Infantry Officer, and I wanted
him to be one too because I knew that he would be one of
the best. When I found out we would be in the same platoon
at TBS, I was very excited. Our time together at
Leatherneck was special and I was looking forward to
spending some more time with Dave out in the field,
“embracing the suck” as Marines so often call
it. To no one’s surprise, Dave did amazingly well at
TBS. He was born to lead Marines, and he demonstrated that
daily at TBS.
I was so happy for him when he got selected for Infantry.
I know that was his heart’s desire and that it was
the perfect fit. I was in Pensacola when I found out he
had hurt himself during the first event in Infantry
Officer’s Course, and had elected to redesignate to
a different Military Occupation Specialty. I called him
immediately to hear his reasoning. We talked for a long
time and he reassured me that it was the right thing for
him to do. We talked again we he got Air Intel, and we
joked about meeting up some day in the same squadron, me
as an Aviator and Dave as the guy supplying me with all my
intel! That was the last time I talked to him. I got
caught up with flight school and we fell out of touch. I
took my relationship with him for granted. I just always
figured we could catch up the next time we saw each other.
I was devastated when I heard that a classmate of mine
from the Naval Academy had died. When I heard it was a
Marine from 25th company, I immediately thought of Dave. I
don’t know why; maybe it was a prompting by the Holy
Spirit. I wept when I found out it was in fact him.
I wept for a lot of reasons, but I mostly wept because I
didn’t know Dave’s spirituality. I accepted
Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior my 2/C year at the
Naval Academy. Me and Dave talked about a lot of things,
but we never talked too much about Church, and we never
talked about Jesus. I don’t know if it was because
we didn’t know we each had a relationship with
Christ, or what, but it never came up. So, like with some
classmates who have since passed away as well, I wept
because I didn’t know where Dave was going. I was
overjoyed, and saddened, when I found out from my friend
and brother-in-Christ Max Caggiano, who was able to make
it to the memorial service, how evident it was from
everyone’s speeches that Dave had a relationship
with Jesus. I was overjoyed because that answered my
question as to where Dave was going. But I was also
saddened, because I had never gotten to know Dave as a
fellow brother-in-Christ. Max, myself, and some other men
at TBS went to church together and attended a men’s
Bible study weekly, but we never asked Dave to come
because, well, we didn’t think about it. Maybe we
didn’t want to offend him if it turned out he
wasn’t a Christian. I’m not sure. I remember
thinking, while at TBS, “man Dave seems so
Christ-like, he has to be a believer,” but I was too
afraid to go up and ask him.
I’m sorry I never involved your son in any of the
Christian fellowship that I experienced while at TBS. I
knew Dave as a man, and I loved him dearly. I would have
loved to have known him as a brother-in-Christ.
Your son was selfless, joyful, respectful, confident,
humble, and endearing. He could lead peers just as
effortlessly as he could lead enlisted Marines. Dave made
me want to lead better, and to be a better Marine. He
still does, and he always will. And I won’t ever
hesitate to invite someone into Christian fellowship
again.
Please know that I am praying for you and your family.
Psalm 46:1-2 comforts me often when I face trials of all
kinds.
Sincerely,
Daniel Abne1stLt USMC
Before the news of David Remick’s death last year
and ever since…I think of “Life of
sacrifice”, for he without realizing it, served
others as a humble servant. In an age when most young
people seek to fulfill selfish ambition, David without any
false pretense lived to serve others. In so doing I
witnessed him in the classroom, on the field and in life
humbly put others first. A true testimony to Romans 12:1
which instructs us to live in a way so that we
“offer our bodies a living sacrifice”.
Ultimately, all credit goes to our Lord and Savior Jesus
Christ for filling this through His grace and mercy in His
death on the cross for us and providing the Holy Spirit to
dwell in us as we represent Him in this life. I remember
David as team captain in football leading by example and
serving his teammates in many areas. Whether it was at the
8-man national tournament in fog so thick you
couldn’t see the other side of the field or coming
to me in Lewisburg PA on a trip to play high school
football in Bucknell University’s stadium and asking
me if I would consider a different pregame routine because
the boys needed attention to things I would have never
thought of…David let his light shine before men,
that they saw the glory of God in him. On the baseball
field I witnessed a young man with very average
skills…unlike those above average skills in
football…serve his teammates by cheering them on in
all circumstances while doing it typically from the bench.
His servant like, habitual character, permeated his walk
in the hallways at SL Academy so much so that it was
contagious to those around him. I remember his senior year
so well because due to his willingness to serve others we
had perhaps the best year ever in regards to behavior. We
all could learn a lesson from David’s selfless
attitude in life. From a human viewpoint David left this
life way to early however many will perhaps never live
even 90 years and exhibit true lives of
sacrifice…living to serve others in all aspects of
life as David routinely did. I celebrate David’s
birthday this week recognizing his servant like attitude
in this world that so desperately needs more
David’s! 1 Peter 4:1-2 “Therefore, since
Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the
same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done
with sin. As a result, they do not live the rest of their
earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the
will of God”.
Wow, it sounds like David’s story continues in the hearts of the lives that he has obviously touched. Cherish these stories and memories as you continue to work through this difficult time. We continue to pray for your family through your loss.
What a wonderful note from Daniel.
Praise God David is a Christian, enjoying his Heavenly Father’s company and learning more at the feet of Jesus. While I was thinking about David yesterday, my Father came to mind. My Dad passed 15yrs ago. He was an amazing father & grandfather. He held himself to a standard of honor & never wavered from that. I was thinking that my Dad would’ve so appreciated the kind of man David turned out to be. Perhaps, someday, I can introduce them to each other. Mark & Kathy, you did a wonderful job raising your Son. Everything I’m hearing about him is what I strive for in raising mine.
Thanks, we are all not angels though. Raising kids is a chore, but a good one 2!
rem
Peace is finding me or I am finding peace…
Reading the wonderful and incredible stories about David simply reinforces the unbelievable man I was so blessed to met in 2011 at NHS. The man I speak of came for an interview…the rest is history. Hats off to Col. Remick. This tells me who the David I read about is and that he truly lived! I wish I could have met him also. I wish I knew the mother that birthed him, along with his brothers. My thoughts and prayers remain with you all.
G
Ginny,
I know you will meet David in forever. I think he’s building a library! He’s one of my many heroes. He taught me lots and still is. Thanks,
rem
Becky,
Thanks, thanks so much. David inspires me.
rem
Can’t even begin to comprehend or understand what you are feeling. I can’t be symphathetic, but certainly can be emphathetic. That letter was very moving and says a lot about who your son was. You will always have his memories in your heart. As always, I am tearing up just thinking about it. Prayers and Thouhgts are with You and Your Family.
Thank you Bobby. One of David’s gifts was empathy. A fantastic gift!
Blessings,
mark
Wow Rem, beautiful. What a tribute.
I enjoyed the pictures and the stories. He touched my heart and soul the first time I met him. I am sharing these stories with my girls so they will know him as we did. We have some stories to share and will get them together soon. I hope everyone that knew David will contribute their stories as well. Mark this is a wonderful tribute! Much love to you, Kathy and your beautiful family! -Heather
Thank you Heather and the Perryman tribe. Jeff knew and loved David very much. The Civil War re-enactments up and down the east coast are great memories. Take care of those girls!
Love,
rem
I was unable to personally come and pay my respects to David. But everyone that had the opportunity to meet and spent time with him, knew that he was special individual. Natural, selfless, sacrificial leader; man of amazing character; inspirational; physically strong; intelligent beyond his years; and he never meet a person whom he couldn’t make his friend. Such a caring heart, although I was 10 years his senior, being around him, I felt like his little brother. David is truely missed and continues to live on in the hearts of those who knew him.
Tywan,
Thank you! If you have any special stories on David, please send them to me via [email protected]
Happy Easter!
mark