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We all thank you so much friends. David, indeed, is missed. (Indeed is one of his favorite words) Thanks for remembering him! We will forever!

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I heard this song today and thought of you guys, I had never thought of heaven as being just a breath away before but David is only a breath away.  That one last breath we take is all that separates us from Heaven time with him.

 
This is a Josh Groban song, his voice is so soothing. The song is called, To Where You Are.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tTdqdOC2DtI

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Love,
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“Come Away With Me”

Come away with me in the night
Come away with me And I will write you a song
Come away with me on a bus
Come away where they can’t tempt us
With their lies I want to walk with you
On a cloudy day In fields where the yellow grass grows knee-high
So won’t you try to come
Come away with me and we’ll kiss
On a mountaintop Montana and Snow
Come away with me
And I’ll never stop loving you
And I want to wake up with the rain
Falling on a tin roof
While I’m safe there in your arms
So all I ask is for you
To come away with me in the night
Come away with me

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  In high school, David’s locker was above mine for the majority of our four years there. Technically, my last name came before his–Rantala before Remick–so I should’ve had the top locker. I have a sneaking suspicion he talked to Mickey or someone else before each year started to claim the top spot.   Even if he had special requested a top locker, that would’ve been fine with me had his locker not looked that an atomic bomb causality. Quite honestly, I’m scared to know what was actually IN that locker–books, food, sweaty sports gear–it’s actually impressive he got so much in there. Less impressive was when it all fell on top of my head every time we were at our lockers together. Getting hit in the head with those hardcover books was becoming a daily occurrence…and it hurt.   “DAVID! Can you just clean your locker?” I asked. “I’m tired of being hit in the head.”   “Okay, okay, I’ll fix it. I promise,” he said. “I’m sorry.”   The next day, he raced over to his locker, completely full of pride. “Cait, I have a solution!”   “Did you clean your locker?”   He dug into his bag and pulled out a red and white spray painted football helmet. “Better. I made this for you,” he said proudly, handing it to me.   “What is it?”   “It’s a football helmet.”   “But why are you giving it to me?”   “Now, when I open my locker, you can put the football helmet on and if any books fall out, you’ll be fine. Your head won’t get hurt because you’re wearing the helmet.”   “Please tell me you’re not serious.”   “It’s genius,” he said. “Here, let’s try it!”   He put the helmet on my head and I humored him while he opened his locker. Technically, it did work–assuming I could get the helmet on fast enough.   “Rem, I don’t think this a good solution–hey, where are you going? Don’t you walk away from me right now! DAVID REMICK!”   “Sorry, gotta go to class,” he yelled from down the hall.   “Oh, likely story. I bet you didn’t even do your homework!”   “No. I made you a football helmet last night. Gotta have your priorities straight, Cait!”33715_535720400325_3319579_n

Notes in David’s High School Bible

  • Proverbs 22: 2-25. Just as hot and cold objects have the potential to change each others temp, we are influenced by our friends for good and bad – so we must pick our friends wisely.249982_1941734056808_2822228_n
  • Isaiah 45: 5-7. All energy comes from God.

 

I remember David especially for his Spiritual maturity. I will never forget the words he prayed one evening in one of our group  meetings while on a mission trip to Peru in 2006. He prayed that God would “bend our will to Your will, Lord.” I had never heard that before – the way David worded it just struck me and caused me to think about it that meant. I couldn’t believe it was coming from an 18 year old either.

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0710011228For My Nephew David!

David
He twas a lad
Sensitive and strong
Two families claimed him
To them he belonged
As a boy he had dreams
To a soldier be
Arranging little plastic men
Into companies
At four he was a cousin
At five, brother to Sam
At six he went to school
And learned to say “Yes Mam”
At nine came brother Thomas
And David controlled his gang
Leading cousins and brothers into fun escapades
And ending each gathering with a clang
Along the way his character
Developed, sharpened, grew
Into a man he was growing
Bold and brave and new
At twelve he began re-enacting
So devoted to his craft
His mom bought an outfit
And had him photographed
At sixteen he began football
Burly, strong, and lean
He tackled player after player
A new record for the team
As the days marched on one by one
Time to graduate came
To The Citadel David would go
After winning Stewards of the Game
First year in college
 Was such a brutal thing
But David excelled
And became a Marine
Next to Naval Academy
 David surely went
To be a plebe and wear dress whites
Learning what Sampa’s stories meant
Then came the time to leave childhood behind
David entered the Marines
He discovered Ashley through the Grace of God
And learned how to lead human beings
Into war and Afghanistan he went
Dragging soldiers to safety he did
An Honorable Citation issued in his name
Clearly no longer a kid
Now he is gone, to the Lord he returned
Taking with him all the things
He did and he learned
But in my memory
He will always have his place
And never in time
Will I forget his face
He is and has always been
One of the loves of my life
And losing him has cut my heart like a knife
Aunt Nancy
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 I was unable to personally come and pay my respects to David.  But everyone that had the opportunity to meet and spent time with him, knew that he was special individual.  Natural, selfless, sacrificial leader; man of amazing character; inspirational; physically strong; intelligent beyond his years; and he never meet a person whom he couldn’t make his friend.  Such a caring heart, although I was 10 years his senior, being around him, I felt like his little brother. David is truely missed and continues to live on in the hearts of those who knew him.
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Good Thursday Morning! Thought I’d share.
1. Question – Do you see God at work in flowers?
2. Thought – Here’s the scoop on the planter. Historically, flowers were used to send secret messages, so let me break the code on the ones in your planter.
Lavender is symbolic of protection and healing…something we have not stopped praying for you guys. The Lord is your refuge, your protection and the only source of healing that mends a broken heart.IMG_0414
Rosemary is symbolic of remembrance. We will never forget David Remick; his servant-hood, his goofiness, his way of making everyone feel important.
Philippians 1:3 says, “I thank my God every time I remember you.” We will forever thank God for the privilege and now remembering your son, your brother and our “other” son.
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African Margarita Daisy: Daisies symbolize inner strength. A daisy has many petals, one petal does not stand alone and neither do you. May you learn to lean on others’ inner strength when yours isn’t sufficient for the day. And of course the Margarita represents the happy-go-lucky, playful attitude of David…the fact that it originates in Africa symbolizes the far reaching impact David had on so many lives, both far and near.
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Peace lily: Lilies stand for a Godly mind and humility. This plant alone could symbolize David…a Godly mind and humble heart. And we know he rests in Peace with the God that created a peace that passeth all understanding.
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3. Comment – When we received this planter in Arlington I cried. Now, I still cry, but comprehend better, and when I re-read the many, many notes, letters, and so much more I am so thankful for Philippians 1:3. And when I look at all the many books I’ve read and studied, I realize I only needed to read and know One. Please read & study ‘Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth.’ Do you see God at work in flowers?
Thanks Bible Study Teacher!

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All our boys are gifts to father and I miss David so much. I love them all forever!!!

  6653_1164068135646_4539606_n I think of David often with such fond memories. It’s the small things he did for me that touched my heart. He made me feel special, but I have since learned that he made everyone feel that way! I always knew he was special, from the first day I met him at the age of 3. There we so many times I was lucky to share 1:1 conversations with David throughout the years, and was so charmed by his charisma. I was so proud of the man he had become, yet always saw a part of him as that little boy with the silly attitude and great laugh. Chip, Stephen & I talk about David all the time, and are grieving along with everyone else who had the privilege of knowing him. We are going through pictures to share with you and Kathy. So many fun times together….that make us smile. I know it has to be so hard, but think of those great Wynfield days together and smile up at David. I do! Lots of love, Lisa DSC_019331460229_10101915874379439_151185157_n DSC_01934   I thought about your David, I remember a very young David, lanky, young, wonderful manners, and sweet smile, just an all-around wonderful, polite young boy.0035 You and Kathy have entered a world that most shudder to think about – I’ve been here for almost 11 years as of May 23th this year.  

He was a good friend to all and I was always glad he was a friend to my Anna. I remember one night she wanted to be out later than I thought proper. I asked her who was going and she listed David as one of the people who would be wherever it was they were going. I immediately agreed to let her go and told my wife. “It’s OK. David will be there. And nothing will hurt Anna as long as David is around.”I don’t know how many High School boys that could be said of. But I was absolutely sure that David would have died trying to protect any of the girls in that group if it had proven necessary.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

 

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…Mark… I heard about David’s passing to the Kingdom… Yes, we are indeed stunned by the news… Words elude me at this sorrowful time… I can only offer this thought… Celebrate David’s life in which he accomplished more in his years then many of us accomplish in a lifetime… DSC_01932football bumgarner 103 DSC_01931DSC_0193DSC_01931I remember him as a fiery Southlake linebacker bringing success to the football program… DSC_0193 Yet, I recall his energy, his personality, his love of family and caring for his younger brothers… In fact, right here, in my library/study sitting on a shelf is tha picture I received of David in a white T-shirt with that motto printed on the back of it, that crazy motto, the one a buddy of mine in our early years of TV gave to me…0421131407a DSC_01931 And, today, as I sit here tapping out these words to you, sits that photo of David in that motto T-shirt on the shelf… That photo will remain on that shelf as long as I’m alive…Celebrate David’s life!… Remember that he gave us more than any of us could hope to receive from our lives… God moves in mysterious ways always using life’s struggles & sorrows to lead us to our appointed duties… God Bless you & Kathy, Sam, & Thomas… Tell them to be strong and to remember the sacrifice their brother gave to his beloved country!… Pops

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David always wanted to take care of other people. On our senior trip to Peru we got stuck in traffic or something happened with the bus and we were on the bus for over 10 hours. I think everyone was at their wits end by that point in time. I remember David walked up the isle of the bus making sure everyone was ok. He came over to my seat just to check on me and make sure I didn’t need something. He was always thinking of others and was also ready to lift a helping hand.

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A few days after  his memorial, I decided to go for a run. It was more for David than for me; I  thought maybe it would make me feel close to him since it was our thing – and it did. It was the worst run ever. It was a cold, gray day just after the snow had  stopped falling. I don’t know why I picked this day, but once I got the  idea in my head, i just HAD to do it. After just a few minutes, my  shoes were soaked and my  feet were freezing. I was running in 8 inches of snow on a soccer field  track. I kept slipping on the ice and the whole thing began to feel  ridiculous. But just when I had all but convinced myself to stop, I  remembered why I was doing it. I remembered all the times I had seen  David persevere over the years, from the 110% effort he put forth in high school in football and wrestling, to Recognition Day at The  Citadel and the Herndon Climb plebe year at USNA. I remembered rugby and countless field training exercises. I remembered his accomplishments at Leatherneck and TBS and how he ran the Marine Corps Marathon 10k in  2011. There are so many other examples, and so many people who observed them, but anyone would agree that David handled each of them with  unwavering determination, strength and without complaint. So if he could do  all that, I could surely do this little thing for him.
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Soon the ice started to melt and I was able to keep going  without falling. I ran longer in those conditions than I ever had in my life.
I have never been a good runner, usually I run 2 miles, tops. But on that day, I ran 7 miles without so  much as slowing down, and it was all because David was pushing me  forward. He is still challenging me, even from Heaven. I have kept  running almost every day since, and every time I experience the same  sense of surreal motivation, as though he were running beside me, cheering me on. I am more grateful  for the workouts now than ever before because I feel like it is our time together.
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This is a small example, but from day-to-day victories  to lifetime achievements, I think it is just one of the many ways David  will continue to inspire the lives of those who loved him.

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On April 12, 2001, Andy pulled up into the driveway of the little office I had in Lincolnton.  I wondered what on earth he’d be doing there in the middle of the morning.  For cryin out loud, I had appointments that day.  What happened next, is why I’m writing to you.  As I met him in the parking lot, he grabbed me by the shoulders and said, ” Rebekah.  Tripp died this morning.”  Tripp Pittman was my brother.  He was 40 and left behind a 2 year old and 5 month old and his wife. He had just returned from Guatemala after completing the adoption of the 5 month old.  When Andy said those words, it was literally like the air was sucked completely out of my lungs and I collapsed in shock. (I would later learn that Tripp had contracted a pneumococcal virus that killed him within 12 hours.  He didn’t have a spleen due to a blood disease from 20 years prior.)David’s death has reminded me so much of Tripp’s passing.  Tripp was loved by all who met him.  He was a Princeton-educated pastor who decided to devote his life to working with the poor in this country.  He spent several years out of Princeton working in the backwoods (Hatfield and McCoy country) of West Virginia.  After he died, my parents got letter after letter from people he knew, just like you and Kathy are getting about David, detailing what my brother had meant to them. My parents cherished those letters. They read them over and over.  For many, many weeks after he died, I had dreams about him.  In every single dream, I saw Tripp as he used to look when he was 18.  Blond hair, blue-eyed, with a grin on his face.   And here’s the deal:  I’ll bet you $50 bucks that’s what he looks like in heaven.For months after he died, I was really mad.  I couldn’t resolve why in the world God would take a person like my brother who had made it his life’s work to preach the Gospel and help others, especially after he had just adopted a baby.  Slowly, I settled on a few things:  1.  God is Sovereign. Bottom line.  2.  His ways really aren’t our ways.  3. This wasn’t a surprise to God.
I am praying for you and Kathy and Sam and Thomas everyday.  I am praying that the Sovereign God of the Universe will hold you tightly in the palm of His hand and that he will comfort you all in a way that is obviously supernatural.
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David and I used to always have these crazy exercise challenges going on. We would set a time frame and see who could get in the best shape before the deadline, and whoever lost would have to buy  dinner for the winner or do some sort of dare. By the end of the  contest, we had always  trash-talked our way into a complex set of rules and regulations. In any case, David was the only  person who could ever motivate me to go to the gym.
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I’m David Zartman, and Tacy, my wife, and my 3 girls have been friends with the Remick’s for a very long time!Ever since David was a little boy he has always been a very caring and loving person. Most boy’s when they are young think of Girls as Goosh having “Coodies” and don’t want to be near them or play with them! But, from the start of our girls meeting David, he was kind and friendly. He being the oldest ,since Scott was already out of the house, naturally set the tone from the beginning and was a true leader making sure all of my girls, Jill, Tara, and Paige were included in all of the fun! You could see his kindness each time we would come over to the Remick’s for a fun night of barbecue and play time. Off went all the Remick boys and Zartman girls to play games and enjoy each other! Many times Kathy or Tacy would have to go upstairs to round them up to get them to come down for the amazing BBQ that Mark and Kathy would cook up with all the fixin’s! Boy can the Remick’s put out a phenomenal BBQ meal! But the kids were all enjoying each other so much thanks to David’s lead that they could care less about food when they were together.unnamed[2] (2)As the years went by, we saw less of the Remick boys because they were involved in different schools and different sports then my three girls. But David’s concern and care for my girls never left! He came out to the NC Air National Guard a lot because he loved to play with the equipment and gear out there and he just loved the military from a very young age. When he would come out, he always found a good quite time to grab me and always ask about my girls. And it wasn’t just a casual “How are Jill, Tara, and Paige?” It was a full court press on wanting to know all they’re activities and what they each were doing with sports and boy friends! See David truly cared and really wanted to know how each of them was doing.In his junior high school days, David got sick and we were all very worried about him. Mark and Kathy had been to numerous doctors and they couldn’t seem to find a cure! My wife told me to get my butt over to the Remick’s , so I finally decided thanks to her ,to go over to the Remick’s house and let David know how much we were praying for him and hoping he would get better very soon. But before I could get any of my motivational words out of my mouth,  David began to ask me how my Girls were doing! David’s such kindhearted nature again burn brighter than ever even as he lay in his bed sick! Thanks to the many prayers of so many, David got better and went on with his amazingly successful life.But even through out his success, David never stopped caring for others! He had heard from his dad that my daughter, Tara, had been accepted to the Air Force Academy and he at the time was a senior at the U S Naval Academy. He was “somebody” , a “Bigdog”, and why would he waste his time with a rising “smack” at his rival school? Most boys in his shoes would not! But David was different. David went out of his way to check on Tara through numerous communication channels as she went through the most rigorous challenges of her life! And even took a complete afternoon of his limited Christmas break to take Tara to lunch and help her learn to cope with the stresses of the Academy. He motivated her so much that she was noticeably more positive through out the remainder of her freshman year. Simply Amazing is all we can say.Just the other day, my daughter, Tara, told me that David was a big motivator to her life. He helped her get through the toughest challenges that she had ever confronted. He had helped her and encouraged her to finish the Air Force Academy! How many people can make such an amazing impact on a persons life? This is what my Family knows about David Remick! He was a Loving, Selfless, Caring, And absolute wonderful young man. We will miss him so much! But we are sure he is Safe with The Lord now!

We love you Remick Family!!!!!

Sincerely, Dave, Tacy, Jill, Tara, and Paige Zartman

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I will always credit David with teaching me patience as I would wait to pick him up every morning for school. On the way to school we could never agree on what music to listen to. I listened to country and he hated country at the time. He listened to this loud boy music like ACDC and something that just sounded like a lot of screaming. After listening to one of my country CD’s we finally found a song he liked, Save a Horse Ride a Cowboy. Since it was the first song we both agreed to, we listened to it every single day on the way to school. I think I heard that song a 100 times.
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I wanted to tell you how blessed I was by David’s service.  God orchestrated a wonderful group of encouraging speakers.  Mitch’s comments on how to grieve unashamedly without guilt coupled with what was “normal” to feel was so helpful.  The reminder to focus on what we know and not what we don’t know helped me think differently about the recent deaths of several close family members. David’s roommate in the military reminded me of David – handsome, humble, selfless and filled with integrity.  Thomas’s words were so honoring of David.  How his brothers loved and respected him!  Your friend from the National Guard captured David’s ability to encourage others regularly.  Mike brought back memories of David’s fun spirit and his steady leadership of young men.  I loved how you honored Kathy and how you communicated David’s character and commitment to God.  And God added the faulty music stand to give us laughter when we needed it!

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What I Remember About David                                                                19 Feb 14 David Remick.  What an absolutely wonderful young man.  I don’t remember the first time I met David, as the son of my friend Mark Remick it may have been at a squadron function or when Kathy drove out to the base.  What I do remember is how polite he was, too polite.  When I spoke to him it was always “yes sir, no sir”.  I still have trouble at times with that since I don’t consider myself that old, but calling me “Mr. Perryman”, wel l that was the limit for me.   I kept telling David that my father was “Mr. Perryman” and he could call me  “Jeff”, but you know what, it never took.  The last time I spoke to him on the phone when he was home on a visit, he still said, “thank you Mr. Perryman”. I guess what I had in common with David most was the subject of Civil War reenacting.  For a time, I was a participating member of the 21st North Carolina.  A reenacting group representing the historical 21st NC (which my great-great grandfather served with, but that’s another story).  Mark told me that David was interested in the subject, so I brought some of my gear for him to look at, musket, haversack, clothes, canteen, etc. and he took to it right away.  Always asking questions on authenticity and what something was used for or how it was used.  He and Mark and Kathy even made it up to my Dad’s old homeplace in Forsyth County and I helped David fire my musket.  Burning that black powder seemed to really make him happy.  The next thing you know I had talked Mark into bringing David up to Ararat, Virginia for our fall encampment at the J.E.B. Stuart birthplace. Mark and David arrived and set up their tent, David already had some gear, but with the sutlers (think stores that sell uniforms, canteens, etc.) available he was looking the part in no time.  I introduced him to our group and our commander, Captain Rahlo Leonard.  David really wanted to be able to fall in with us and participate in the “battles” that would be happening over the weekend.  There was only one small problem.  The rules say you have to be 14 to “fall in ranks” and carry a weapon.  Well, David was a little past  12 years old. That was a problem.  He was so excited about being there and wanted so badly to be part of the formation.  Finally, Captain Leonard called him over and said, “David, take off one of your shoes”, which David did.  The next thing I know, Captain Leonard takes  out a piece of paper that has “14” written on it in big numbers.  “David, put this in your shoe and then put it back on”, the Captain instructed.  David did as he was directed, and then Captain Leonard handed him a musket and cartridge belt and told him to fall in.  As David stood in our Grey Line, Captain Leonard said, “David, if any of the battalion officers come up and ask you how old you are, you tell them ‘I’m standing on 14’, and that will be the truth”.  I have never seen a bigger smile on a kid’s face.  You’d have thought that Christmas came early and school had been cancelled for a week.  The 21st had a new recruit for the weekend and none more excited to be there and part of the action. I will always remember David as that polite, thoughtful, and respectful young man.  He has left us much too soon, and his absence will be missed by so many, who I think like me, will forever miss his presence and potential.  I still wish he would have called me “Jeff” and not “Mr. Perryman”. Jeff David Perryman

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I read Mike Dobrinen’s story and saw fire man John. Jonathan does not write so I will just tell you this- When they were at the service Jonathan and Gregory were introducing themselves to the Marines. Remember both of them had on uniforms- j his guard and G his fireman dress. J said they all shook hands and talked a little. Didn’t recognize Jonathan’s name. The Marines commented about the fire truck and the flag. J and G said they did it. I forgot how it happened but all of a sudden one of the Marines said are you fire man John? They all started talking about the stories they heard from David about j and g. It made the boys feel special that David would share their stories with the guys at the academy and in the Marines. I will encourage j or g to write the story since they know the details.

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Mr. Remick, My name is Brandon Penner and I had the distinct pleasure in serving with your son, David, while we were students at TBS. I cannot express how saddened I was to hear of his passing. David was more than just a friend to me, he was an inspiration and someone that I was able to learn from. I was known as the “old man” of the platoon because I was prior enlisted infantry prior to becoming an officer. So, naturally the platoon members looked to me for advise and first-hand knowledge of how exactly the Marine Corps really worked (sometimes the schoolhouse environment does not communicate this very well).

Early on, I noticed that David was a natural leader. Based on my experience in the Marine Corps, both as a junior/senior enlisted Marine and as an officer, I can honestly say that David was one of the best Marines I have ever served with. I distinctly remember him placing the needs of others ahead of himself. David was always the guy that would stay up all night during field exercises to ensure that everyone else could sleep (including myself, believe me I really appreciated it). What distinguished David during these times was that he acted in this unselfish manner naturally, it was just the person he was. David never expected acclaim or quid pro quo, he simply wanted to help out to the best of his ability for the better well-being of our platoon. As a person, David was so much fun to be around. If he wasn’t making me laugh, I was asking him historical or political questions; he was so smart. I always wanted to be around him during our field training because he was expert at making boring/miserable situations enjoyable. I am truly going to miss David, he was a friend and someone I learned a lot from. I hope this letter helps sooth some of your pain. You raised a great son who left an impression on everyone he met. Attached is a picture taken during our TBS graduation. I couldn’t leave TBS without a picture with David. My son, Daniel, is between the two of us. If you have an questions or would like to talk, please feel free to e-mail, write a letter, or call anytime. 1457653_10100293780300664_1156638678_n

Leadership
At the mere mention of David Remick’s name, the first thing that usually pops in your head is Leadership.
Psalm 78:72   “And David shepherded them with integrity of heart; with skillful hands he led them.”
That’s how David Remick led…with integrity.  And his integrity was a direct reflection of his faith.
His leadership went way beyond the physical.  He led with his heart.  He led with his mind.  He was a THOUGHT leader.  He read, he thought, he questioned…and then he inspired those around him to think as well.
But you can’t talk about David Remick without talking about his leadership on the football field.  Yes, he was an absolute beast on the football field.  But frankly, I admired him even more as I watched him carry-out his role as Team Captain.  His main objective was always…always lifting other players up.  When he wasn’t on the field, which wasn’t very often, he roamed the sideline looking for teammates to encourage.  He led by example.  He led from the front.  Something that I’m sure his fellow Marines will testify that translated from the football field to the battlefield.
 
My family and I got a front row seat to many leadership lessons taught by David Remick during his senior year of high school.  I’d like to tell you about one that really stood out.  My son David, who was a year behind Remick at Southlake Christian Academy, was a little behind in his homework.  No, actually, he was WAY behind in his homework….and we got wind of it.  And being the mean old parents that we are, we told him he wasn’t going to play in the game Friday night unless he had it all caught up.  And the chances of that happening were slim to none.
Well, that Tuesday night we heard a knock at the door.  It was David Remick.  That should have been my first clue that something was up.  David Remick never knocked on our door…he just came right in. And he usually went straight to the refrigerator.  Actually, I take that back, he would give you a big, monster Remick hug… and THEN he would go to the refrigerator.  I asked David to come in and he said “No sir, I’d like to speak to your son out here on the porch.”  Right then, I could tell there was something different about this visit.   You see, this wasn’t a visit from David Remick “the friend”.  This was an official visit from David Remick the “Team Captain.” 1622866_10202378078067825_1027438845_n
So, I went and found my David and told him he had a visitor.  I closed the door behind him as he went out on the porch to talk to Remick.  We knew they would want some privacy.   But then, Teresa and I snuck around to an open window on the porch… because we wanted to hear every word of this.  I mean this was David Remick!!!!  So you knew this was going to be good.  It was a pretty short conversation.  It went something like this. “Hey Sharp, our team needs you Friday night.  I need you Friday night.  I’m not sure we can win this game without you.  So you need to get your butt back up to your room and get your homework done…so you can help your team Friday night.  He paused….and then he said “You got that?”.   “Yeah, I got it” was the response.  And then David Remick turned around and walked away.  My son came back in and went up to his room.  I think he did more homework those next three days than he’d done the past 3 years.
Well, let’s fast forward to the end of the story.  That Friday night’s game was against First Assembly….a big rivalry.  There was about 10 seconds left on the clock and Southlake was up 10-9.  First Assembly had made their way down to the 5 yard line.  Everybody on the Southlake side of the field was pretty distraught as First Assembly lined-up for an easy field goal to seal the win.  Well, the kick gets blocked and all the Southlake players and fans start jumping up and down in excitement…game over…right?  Wrong.  There’s still a live ball on the field.   A First Assembly player picks up the ball and is headed for the end zone.  But he got tackled on the 1 yard line.  He got tackled by the player that David Remick had led and inspired to be on the field that night.
That tackle went down on the stat sheet as a solo tackle for #47.  But those of us who knew the whole story knew that was no solo tackle.  #51, David Remick, was in on that last tackle that night…just like he was in on most tackles every game.  David Remick’s leadership and his friendship changed the outcome of that game.  Just like his leadership and friendship has changed the outcome of many of our lives here today.  But, does it really matter…almost 10 years later who won that game that night?  No, of course not.  But the lesson that David Remick taught a number of us that day does matter.  He taught us that true leadership, and true friendship, is first and foremost about showing-up.  And when you show up as a leader, you better be ready to tell people what they need to hear…which is not always what they want to hear.  That lesson mattered then.  And it still matters to us today.207160_503705114570_9178_n

 

Hey Mark, loving the David stories.  The one from Mr. Nerness and Annie’s mom were precious.

Here’s the YouTube link to the video tribute of David that David Sharp put together.  Feel free to this link out there on your David Remick website page for all the enjoy.
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Good Evening Mr and Mrs Remick.

My name is Mike Dobrinen and I had the absolute pleasure to have been friends with your son. It is a rare occurrence for a man of his caliber to grace this earth and I thank God, his family and the naval academy for giving me the opportunity to grow up with him.  It is my opinion that much of who we become as adults is guided by our families and our faith.  I firmly believe that I would not be the man I am without the influence of your son. Dave and I met plebe year through the rugby team and became fast friends through the sharing stories of the “old corps” at the Citadel and my alma mater the New Mexico Military Institute.  Both institutions shared a similar penchant for punishment and we often shared stories about how much harder things used to be (or so we thought).  I would always wonder who this guy was that would want to complete his plebe year and then just go back for another one.  Then again, I think we hit it off because I was foolish enough to do the same.

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Each Monday you knew who the rugby players were because they would leave their sixth period classes with their gym bags and black eyes, beginning the long often foreboding walk to the rugby shed on hospital point.  I remember thinking Dave was a crazy man because as many of us walked over the bridge to the pitch, it would be a common occurrence to see Dave jogging by us, in working uniform, yelling that he would rather get the punishment started than take his time worrying about it.  I didn’t realize it then but the hard working, jovial in the face of pain attitude that I saw on days like that really characterize what Remick would eventually epitomize as an officer and Marine. Through some hard won victories on the rugby field, and some near disasters in chemistry class, we were able to make it by our plebe year and choose History as a common major.  I believe that I learned more about him as an intellectual through our arguments on the way back from class than I ever could in any other context.  We took a few civil war classes together and when I thought it was a good idea to pick a fight Dave made sure I knew what I was in for.  Dave fervently loves the south. I am from the north. If you ever wanted to rile him up, I know the topic. He is the only one that I have ever gotten into a wrestling match with over an intellectual subject.  I will always remember the way that his eyes would light up when he thinks he has you cornered in an argument.David We took physics together, sat in the back and probably only passed because we lifted weights with the teacher (an avid power lifter) after school.  Dave used to work so hard that the blood vessles in his eyes would pop and he would walk back to Bancroft looking like some sort of zombie. Dave and I were able to take the history of modern counterinsurgency together, in which we were borderline kicked out of class on numerous occasions for arguing well beyond the scope of our class’ conversation.  Needless to say they sponsored our independent study senior year, “The History of American Counterinsurgency”.  Almost every night senior year Rem, Jess Maxwell and I would sit in front of a computer for some length of time arguing whether or not the concept even existed.  I don’t know where he got it from but Dave had an amazing ability to think big picture. At tbs I remember the day that he selected the infantry MOS.  I didn’t hear from Dave that he had achieved his long sought out goal.  I heard from the large amount of people who came up to me saying, “Hey! Did you hear Remick got infantry!”  Every one knew that he was made for the job and my heart broke when he told me that he hurt his knee in IOC. We talked often while he was on deployment and of course he made it seem like there was nothing going on.  He talked more about his brothers and “fire man john” than anything else.  We talked about Pat.  We made some plans to go duck hunting and talked about what trucks to buy.  I had no idea that he had been in constant contact with the enemy just barely that he was even going on patrols. That’s who Dave is to me.  He was the guy who would pick up the heaviest stuff, walk the furthest, not say a word but have a smile on his face and make you want to do the same. I believe that the truest form of friendship exists between those who have a sense for the finite nature of life.

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In remembrance and in honor of David Remick by coach Nerness
 
      As a teacher and coach, over the years, it has been my privilege and honor to have been able to teach and coach some remarkable people. David Remick ranks amongst the highest of those, he left an indelible impression upon me in the category of being remarkable. I thank the Lord for my time with David and I know it made me a better man having coached and taught him.
     David was a very inquisitive student and always wanted to learn. He was one of the few students that would buy the books I presented in class and actually read them. He never let his education get in the way of being educated. This approach stayed with David after he graduated from SouthLake. I remember talking to him after he had left SouthLake; most of the time they were rushed conversations, because of our schedules, about politics, religion, and military strategy. Every time we carried on a conversation they were interesting and delightful and was impressed with how well David reflected on these subjects and how much I would learn from him. I have had a number of students leave SouthLake that became my teacher and David was one of them. 112_503843871500_6878_n
      David was the kind of kid any coach would want to have as an athlete. I coached David in the sport of wrestling, which I believe to be one of the toughest sports out there. This sport suited David well because the nature of the sport; little glory and demands a lot of guts and heart; wrestling is a cruel mistress and the first time David met her, he would not leave her while he was in high school.
        David had as much heart as any wrestler I have ever coached and would do anything you asked him without grumbling or complaining and faithfully expressed our goal of having an attitude of gratitude. I once watched David participate in a tournament with a haircut given to him by a few of his fellow wrestlers (Stevermer & Stone, I believe), that made him look like Lloyd Christmas from Dumb and Dumber, but this did not affect his heart and desire to win; even if he lost because he defaulted out by means of too many illegal moves even after having a lead of 13-5. I remember David at the Granby school of wrestling (referred to by the wrestlers by the German word “holle”, it was composed of 6-8 hours of training a day with no air conditioning in the middle of the summer ) reacting to my proposal that we fit another training session in before the night session. I explained that this had been arranged by me with the camp director (former University of Iowa wrestler, Steve Martin, not the comedian, in fact quite the opposite) for purpose of training SouthLake wrestlers alone. This was all fabricated by me in order to see how the wrestlers would react to this rather unpleasant proposal. I received some dumbfounded looks and a few moans of disapproval from some of the wrestlers but not from David. He rose to the occasion, and uttered “I have one pair of clean underwear left, let’s do this” and then he turned around to change his clothes for the session.  I suspect this utterance came from a mixture of fortitude, courage, obedience, and delirium derived from the smell of his room which was accompanied by Seth Stone and Justin Stevermer.  He passed the test with flying colors.1797355_10202377996585788_1019581317_n
      Humility, fortitude, gratitude and service expressed David’s character. He knew how to handle losing (get back up and try again without complaining) and how to handle winning (no pride or arrogance just gratitude) he knew how to encourage others (like his phone call, to the little leprechaun, Chris Kilgannon, to encourage him, before his state tournament match). These are the things I try to teach the kids in this sport and in the case of David, he already had these characteristics before he started wrestling and no doubt this was a result of his home life and ultimately the grace of God working in his life.
      When David graduated, I told him I would follow him if he were my leader and I have never changed my mind about this resolution and because David has gone before me; I shall follow him to the greatest victory with the same assurance he had, “Death is swallowed up in victory” because the Lord of glory has put death to death. Thank you, Lord Jesus.
 

“ A WALK IN THE PARK “

This story took place when Annie was 16 and David was 17.  They had recently started dating and I wanted to get to know David and know how he could assure me that their relationship would be as strong a Christian bond as God intended.  I don’t remember what the situation was but I remember that my first impression was that David had Annie’s back. So I arranged for David to meet with me after school one day.  I wanted to put him at ease, so I asked Annie what I could bring to him that he would like.  She told me to bring him a vanilla ice cream cone…and that’s what I did.   He ate the ice cream while we drove to Jetton Park and made polite conversation.

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When we got to the park I told him that I had already talked to Annie about how she was going to proceed with their relationship but I wanted to know what he had been doing to determine how he would move forward with her.  He told me that when he was young, he always got on his knees to pray and said that he had returned to that practice during the past months.  He continued to tell me how he felt about Annie and that although he wasn’t perfect, he very much wanted to make their relationship one that we all would be proud of. And, true to form, he continued to talk,  explain himself and ask me questions for 4 laps around the park path, which equated to 6 miles!  I had never done that many laps there before.  I got to know David’s exceptional character that day, and I was happy my daughter had chosen such a caring and Godly young man. When I finally said that I could not walk any longer, I drove him home.  Kathy was in the driveway when we got there…and I am sure that she wondered why Annie’s Mom was bringing David home!  David gave me a big hug and got out of the car. To this day I remember our conversation when I think of him and I am very thankful for the influence he had in Annie’s life. 133 - Copy

Good Evening Sir,
        My name is Cpl. Justin Blosser. I attended the funeral services for your son on this past weekend. I was one of the senior police advisors for ANCOP KDK1. I worked close with your son and have a few stories that would put a smile on your face during these time. Your son was a great man. He would always just burst in to our tent and random times of the the night with this big smile on his face. “Evening gents, Ya’ll know whats going on in Syria?”. Those were the first words out of his mouth before we would go in to a big history lesson that would cover hundreds of years before we even got to the recent events. He would always give a prize to the marine that knew the most about History. I sat next to him every day as we trained the less experienced marines how to give periods of instructions, so that when we tought the Afghans, the marines would perform flawless. Your son and I sat through those classes so much that we could give a class in our sleep. He wanted these classes to be perfect. He was always the first officer down on the trucks with us helping to prepare for missions, and the last one to leave making sure all the rest of the guys were good. He always went out of his way to come check on the troop welfare. You could tell his walk from a mile away the way he would swing his arms, the marines always got a kick out of that. I was the gunner of the vic that was struck by the suicide bomber. I was medevaced from the scene. Your son and the others showed later that night to be checked out after all was done. I remember, barley able to hear, (I had a concussion and two blown ear drums) him asking me how i was, looking at me, watching my every move to make sure i was ok. We had long conversations about how i needed to take it easy with my head injuries. He never let me out of his sight. Your son was an outstanding person and I looked up to him. I know i speak for the rest of the marines that served by his side that he will be deeply missed. Feel free to email me here or mail to my home address listed below.

Mr. Remick,

My name is Dan Abney, and I was friends with your son Dave both at the Naval Academy and after graduation. I’m currently a Marine in flight training stationed at Corpus Christi, TX and was unable to come up for Dave’s memorial service. However, friends of mine that were there gave me your e-mail address and said your family is interested in compiling stories about your son. That is the purpose of this message.
I met Dave during Youngster Navigation class. We discovered in class one day that we each had gone to college elsewhere prior to getting accepted to the Naval Academy. I had done a two year stint at the University of Central Florida where I had been in Army ROTC, so Dave and I became fast friends as we swapped stories about our brief times with the Army. We became much closer during the summer before 1/C year where we were in the same platoon and squad over Leatherneck. Dave and I were two of the only guys who had any experience with land navigation and squad tactics, having learned them at our previous colleges before coming to Navy, and we worked together to get our squad squared away and prepared for Leatherneck.
Dave was what I always referred to as “stupid smart”. I had known from conversations with him in Navigation class that he was an incredibly bright young man. However, at Leatherneck, his boyish, happy-go-lucky attitude made others think that he was less than capable. Boy did he prove them wrong. Dave did an awesome job at Leatherneck. So awesome that he got ranked 1st out of our whole platoon, both by our instructor and all of our peers, something that I was not surprised at in the least. Sure, he was great at all the individually graded events. But what really won the platoon over was how he lead so sacrificially. He was always looking for a way to help others. He would never get angry, frustrated, or bummed out when we were getting rained on in the middle of the woods in Quantico. He would always know exactly what to say to cheer everyone up, and I loved him dearly for that.
One story during our time in Leatherneck that is most memorable is when we had to lead a squad-sized attack against an enemy force. It was the culminating event at Leatherneck, and it had the biggest effect on our final grade; the grade that eventually determined whether or not you were going to be selected for the Marine Corps. Well, because of the experience Dave and I brought to the table, Dave was selected to be the first to go, and I was selected to go last. Our instructor’s idea was that the squad would get to watch a good attack at the beginning, and then get to watch another good one at the end as a recap. Dave and I didn’t know this though until the morning we went into the field. Dave had accidentally left his 5 paragraph order (that we had been given almost a week to perfect) in his room, and there wasn’t time to retrieve it. There was no way for him to switch out of going first, so he was stuck. But, instead of getting angry or upset, Dave, with a huge grin on his face, said “Well I guess this will be fun!” There were some problems with his attack, as could be expected. But man did he do a great job. In fact, he did a better job than almost anyone else did that day, and they had the benefit of having their order written out in front of them! Boy oh boy could Dave lead. I really looked up to him for that, and he made me want to be a better leader.
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I had a class with Dave 1/C year as well, and I was super excited when we both got selected for the Marine Corps. I knew Dave wanted to be an Infantry Officer, and I wanted him to be one too because I knew that he would be one of the best. When I found out we would be in the same platoon at TBS, I was very excited. Our time together at Leatherneck was special and I was looking forward to spending some more time with Dave out in the field, “embracing the suck” as Marines so often call it. To no one’s surprise, Dave did amazingly well at TBS. He was born to lead Marines, and he demonstrated that daily at TBS.dept_of_marines_l_1_1[1]
I was so happy for him when he got selected for Infantry. I know that was his heart’s desire and that it was the perfect fit. I was in Pensacola when I found out he had hurt himself during the first event in Infantry Officer’s Course, and had elected to redesignate to a different Military Occupation Specialty. I called him immediately to hear his reasoning. We talked for a long time and he reassured me that it was the right thing for him to do. We talked again we he got Air Intel, and we joked about meeting up some day in the same squadron, me as an Aviator and Dave as the guy supplying me with all my intel! That was the last time I talked to him. I got caught up with flight school and we fell out of touch. I took my relationship with him for granted. I just always figured we could catch up the next time we saw each other.
I was devastated when I heard that a classmate of mine from the Naval Academy had died. When I heard it was a Marine from 25th company, I immediately thought of Dave. I don’t know why; maybe it was a prompting by the Holy Spirit. I wept when I found out it was in fact him.
I wept for a lot of reasons, but I mostly wept because I didn’t know Dave’s spirituality. I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior my 2/C year at the Naval Academy. Me and Dave talked about a lot of things, but we never talked too much about Church, and we never talked about Jesus. I don’t know if it was because we didn’t know we each had a relationship with Christ, or what, but it never came up. So, like with some classmates who have since passed away as well, I wept because I didn’t know where Dave was going. I was overjoyed, and saddened, when I found out from my friend and brother-in-Christ Max Caggiano, who was able to make it to the memorial service, how evident it was from everyone’s speeches that Dave had a relationship with Jesus. I was overjoyed because that answered my question as to where Dave was going. But I was also saddened, because I had never gotten to know Dave as a fellow brother-in-Christ. Max, myself, and some other men at TBS went to church together and attended a men’s Bible study weekly, but we never asked Dave to come because, well, we didn’t think about it. Maybe we didn’t want to offend him if it turned out he wasn’t a Christian. I’m not sure. I remember thinking, while at TBS, “man Dave seems so Christ-like, he has to be a believer,” but I was too afraid to go up and ask him.
I’m sorry I never involved your son in any of the Christian fellowship that I experienced while at TBS. I knew Dave as a man, and I loved him dearly. I would have loved to have known him as a brother-in-Christ.
Your son was selfless, joyful, respectful, confident, humble, and endearing. He could lead peers just as effortlessly as he could lead enlisted Marines. Dave made me want to lead better, and to be a better Marine. He still does, and he always will. And I won’t ever hesitate to invite someone into Christian fellowship again.
Please know that I am praying for you and your family. Psalm 46:1-2 comforts me often when I face trials of all kinds.
Sincerely,
Daniel Abne1stLt   USMC
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Before the news of David Remick’s death last year and ever since…I think of “Life of sacrifice”, for he without realizing it, served others as a humble servant. In an age when most young people seek to fulfill selfish ambition, David without any false pretense lived to serve others. In so doing I witnessed him in the classroom, on the field and in life humbly put others first. A true testimony to Romans 12:1  which instructs us to live in a way so that we “offer our bodies a living sacrifice”. Ultimately, all credit goes to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for filling this through His grace and mercy in His death on the cross for us and providing the Holy Spirit to dwell in us as we represent Him in this life. I remember David as team captain in football leading by example and serving his teammates in many areas. Whether it was at the 8-man national tournament in fog so thick you couldn’t see the other side of the field or coming to me in Lewisburg PA on a trip to play high school football in Bucknell University’s stadium and asking me if I would consider a different pregame routine because the boys needed attention to things I would have never thought of…David let his light shine before men, that they saw the glory of God in him. On the baseball field I witnessed a young man with very average skills…unlike those above average skills in football…serve his teammates by cheering them on in all circumstances while doing it typically from the bench. His servant like, habitual character, permeated his walk in the hallways at SL Academy so much so that it was contagious to those around him. I remember his senior year so well because due to his willingness to serve others we had perhaps the best year ever in regards to behavior. We all could learn a lesson from David’s selfless attitude in life. From a human viewpoint David left this life way to early however many will perhaps never live even 90 years and exhibit true lives of sacrifice…living to serve others in all aspects of life as David routinely did. I celebrate David’s birthday this week recognizing his servant like attitude in this world that so desperately needs more David’s! 1 Peter 4:1-2  “Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin. As a result, they do not live the rest of their earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God”.

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13 Comments David

  1. Becky

    Wow, it sounds like David’s story continues in the hearts of the lives that he has obviously touched. Cherish these stories and memories as you continue to work through this difficult time. We continue to pray for your family through your loss.

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    1. Robyn

      What a wonderful note from Daniel.
      Praise God David is a Christian, enjoying his Heavenly Father’s company and learning more at the feet of Jesus. While I was thinking about David yesterday, my Father came to mind. My Dad passed 15yrs ago. He was an amazing father & grandfather. He held himself to a standard of honor & never wavered from that. I was thinking that my Dad would’ve so appreciated the kind of man David turned out to be. Perhaps, someday, I can introduce them to each other. Mark & Kathy, you did a wonderful job raising your Son. Everything I’m hearing about him is what I strive for in raising mine.

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      1. Mark Remick

        Thanks, we are all not angels though. Raising kids is a chore, but a good one 2!
        rem

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        1. Ginny Batts

          Peace is finding me or I am finding peace…

          Reading the wonderful and incredible stories about David simply reinforces the unbelievable man I was so blessed to met in 2011 at NHS. The man I speak of came for an interview…the rest is history. Hats off to Col. Remick. This tells me who the David I read about is and that he truly lived! I wish I could have met him also. I wish I knew the mother that birthed him, along with his brothers. My thoughts and prayers remain with you all.

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          1. Mark Remick

            Ginny,
            I know you will meet David in forever. I think he’s building a library! He’s one of my many heroes. He taught me lots and still is. Thanks,
            rem

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    2. Mark Remick

      Becky,
      Thanks, thanks so much. David inspires me.
      rem

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  2. Bobby

    Can’t even begin to comprehend or understand what you are feeling. I can’t be symphathetic, but certainly can be emphathetic. That letter was very moving and says a lot about who your son was. You will always have his memories in your heart. As always, I am tearing up just thinking about it. Prayers and Thouhgts are with You and Your Family.

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    1. Mark Remick

      Thank you Bobby. One of David’s gifts was empathy. A fantastic gift!
      Blessings,
      mark

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  3. Doc C

    Wow Rem, beautiful. What a tribute.

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  4. Heather Perryman

    I enjoyed the pictures and the stories. He touched my heart and soul the first time I met him. I am sharing these stories with my girls so they will know him as we did. We have some stories to share and will get them together soon. I hope everyone that knew David will contribute their stories as well. Mark this is a wonderful tribute! Much love to you, Kathy and your beautiful family! -Heather

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    1. Mark Remick

      Thank you Heather and the Perryman tribe. Jeff knew and loved David very much. The Civil War re-enactments up and down the east coast are great memories. Take care of those girls!
      Love,
      rem

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  5. Tywan

    I was unable to personally come and pay my respects to David. But everyone that had the opportunity to meet and spent time with him, knew that he was special individual. Natural, selfless, sacrificial leader; man of amazing character; inspirational; physically strong; intelligent beyond his years; and he never meet a person whom he couldn’t make his friend. Such a caring heart, although I was 10 years his senior, being around him, I felt like his little brother. David is truely missed and continues to live on in the hearts of those who knew him.

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    1. Mark Remick

      Tywan,
      Thank you! If you have any special stories on David, please send them to me via [email protected]
      Happy Easter!
      mark

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